“To let go isn’t to forget, not to think about, or ignore. It doesn’t leave feelings of anger, jealousy, or regret. Letting go isn’t winning, and it isn’t losing. It’s not about pride, and it’s not about how you appear, and it’s not obsessing or dwelling on the past. Letting go isn’t blocking memories or thinking sad thoughts, and doesn’t leave emptiness, hurt, or sadness It’s not giving in or giving up. Letting go isn’t about loss and it’s not defeat.
To let go is to cherish memories, and overcome and move on. It’s having an open mind and confidence in the future. Letting go is accepting. It’s learning and experiencing and growing. To let go is to be thankful for the experiences that made you laugh, made you cry, and made you grow. It’s about all that you have, all that you had, and all that you will soon again have. Letting go is having the courage to accept change, and the strength to keep moving. Letting go is growing up. It’s realizing that the heart can sometimes be the most potent remedy. To let go is to open a door, and to clear a path, and to set you free…”
God’s been leading me through a time of letting go recently. Hah, I feel as though most of my posts have been on transition/letting go.. so many transitions and so many things to let go of.. I guess I have a tighter grip than most people, but at any rate, I continue to struggle with letting go. As I stumbled upon this quote I couldn’t help but think what a refreshing outlook it produced on letting go.
I guess I’ve been thinking about relationships a lot lately. Recently I read the book “Captivating” by Stasi Eldredge and I’ve begun to read “Wild at Heart” by John Eldredge. What I’ve been learning is that we are designed for relationship. The Bible states that both man and woman were made in the image of God. Man was made to showcase the Lord’s adventurous side. Man was made for the wilderness – for adventure – for making poor judgment acts in the name of fun. Man was made to be a protector. Women were also made in the image of God. Women were made to bring beauty. We were made to bring solace and a motherly touch while being protected. Women long for adventures as well. Both men and women were made in the image of God. When brought together, we depict the whole image of God. I think that’s why God uses marriage to depict his highest and greatest relationship. Marriage depicts Christ and the church. It makes sense that we long so deeply for such intimacy. So what do we do while we wait?
I think we should focus more on praying for our future spouse. So often we are focused on wanting to be in that relationship but I think our focus needs to be on honoring our future spouse now in the spot we are in. Who knows what your future spouse is currently going through and how the prayers you send his/her way could be helping them at that time. It’s not just about when we are actually in the relationship. We are called to honor our future spouse now – in how we conduct ourselves with the opposite sex, in how we talk about relationships, in how we pray for our future spouse, and how we prepare for that relationship. Write down your prayers. Write down your thoughts. I’ve made a commitment to keeping a journal for my future spouse. It houses prayers and thoughts. It has an intimacy that one day I hope to share with my spouse. Find a way to respect and honor your future spouse in your current situation. Be honoring him/her in how you act now. Wait patiently on the Lord’s timing and allow Him to work.
Guys, don’t let today’s world allow you to be passive. Be bold. Pursue the girl. Be spiritual leaders, respect girls, and continually affirm and love your girl. Girls, stop throwing yourself at guys. Respect yourselves. Allow guys to pursue you and stop tripping guys up with how you dress/act – be modest. Respect guys and allow them to be gentleman by protecting you.